the second piece of French toast

Feel in a funk? author Hilary A. Burns shares her story about finding yourself after 14 years of marriage.

As a single woman, I used to have it all. I was thin, athletic, smart, successful, and sociable. When I got married, I thought my life would only improve. But before I knew it, 14 years had gone by, and I was 40 pounds heavier. Not only was I miserable in my relationship, but I was miserable in my body. 

A comment from my daughter shocked me into action: “You’re too old to look good.” 

I am? I asked myself. 

My high school classmates told me I had been fun and energetic. What happened to that laughing, happy Hilary who had danced and been so confident on her wedding day? I didn’t know. 

This is my story—from numbing my emotions to opening up to the people around me. Come along on my journey towards self-confidence, acceptance, and regaining my true self.

Who is Hilary A. Burns?

Hilary Arnow Burns grew up in Westport, Connecticut. She graduated from the Wharton Business School at the University of Pennsylvania in 1981. She spent over 30 years as a business consultant to companies all over the world. Her best accomplishment is having raised two remarkable children. She has a YouTube channel and website, “Getting Real with Hilary.” She has a blog, “” Her vision is to inspire people to live the lives they’ve always dreamed of. She is currently living hers. This is her first book.

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